Are You Trying Too Hard to Be Happy? - The Self Improvement Blog

By Georgiana Carollus -

Do you hold yourself to a measure of happiness that you think you need to obtain and maintain? Is trying to be happy adding to your stress level? Do you need some stress relief from your pursuit of happiness? A simple and effective way to increase your happiness is to broaden your definition of happiness to include the full range of your emotions.

Happiness seems to be the new thing today and there is a high premium placed on it. However, while there is a very real value in pursuing happiness, maintaining a constant happiness high is unrealistic. By over-valuing happiness, we run the danger of denying our other legitimate feelings.

When we insist on happiness we are judging our emotions as good or bad, acceptable or unacceptable. If we only choose happiness, we are refusing to embrace all the aspects and parts of ourselves that make up our wholeness. All feelings, including happiness, sadness, anger, fear, joy, grief ? every feeling! ? is impermanent. Every feeling is there so we can experience life to the fullest.

As humans, we naturally want to embrace and enjoy those feelings that make us feel good and we tend to avoid those feelings that make us feel bad. We push away those bad feelings and try to escape them as soon as possible. Ignoring or trying to bury our uncomfortable feelings, however, isn?t enough to banish them forever. Those feelings still remain and, as the saying goes, what we resist, persists.

The best way to transform and release uncomfortable feelings is stay with them. If it is not possible for you to do this at the first moment of these feelings, go back and revisit them when you are in a safe environment. When you have some privacy and feel safe, allow yourself to feel those uncomfortable feelings. In much less time than you expect, they will release their grip on you. Many report that they experience an intense feeling of peacefulness and deep happiness at the moment of the release and transformation of these feelings.

Everyone has a desire for happiness. One way to increase our happiness is to expand our definition of happiness to include our ability and courage to experience a full range of feelings.

Love every one of your feelings because they add to the richness of your life. This richness is where your true happiness lies. Be a friend to yourself and congratulate yourself for your ability to have and experience all of your feelings.

How well do you treat yourself? Visit http://www.FriendYourselfProject.com to find practical tips on how to recognize your brilliance and to treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and loved ones. For daily inspiration, subscribe to a free Daily Moment of Inspiration! Georgiana Carollus, MA, personal, spiritual, and intuitive coach offers coaching and resources to help accelerate your process of friending yourself at the Friend Yourself Project website.

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